I have
been reading my book ' What to Expect -
the first year' and came across the section
on confidence which
made me think quite a bit. Its true some
women simply see themselves as earth
mothers. I have a cousin who considers
herself like this, has a small army of
kids and will casually admit she always
felt motherhood would come naturally
to her. I can honestly say I put myself
in the other category. A woman who has
never really thought much about kids.
As a child I was definitely an outdoor
tomboy type who loved toy cars and trucks
as much as any doll and in high school
used to agree with my best mate that
we were not maternal types.
That said when my baby brother arrived
I was almost 5 and used to love to take
part in his babyhood by matching his
antics with my tiny tears. Sometimes
swapping tiny tears for my brother.
Mum bathed tiny tears and I bathed the
baby. Mum walked him in his pram & I
walked tiny tears. That didn't mean I
was destined to grow up as a natural
mother but it may have developed my teaching
skills as I taught him to read and add
up along with me. No wonder he's very
smart !
Perhaps though this taught me not to
be afraid of babies or children. I have
to admit that whilst I am clearly not
an 'earth mother' reading that section
on confidence and the fact that un maternal
types often view the impending birth
with great trepidation made me realise
I didn't feel like that at all.
Acuna Matata -
No worries. Far from
my confidence crumbling I actually feel
every day as if I simply know that my
baby and I will fall in love from the
first moment (I am in love with my bump
already) and I just know I will cope
wonderfully well. It doesn't mean I am
not prepared for a shock and a pretty
steep learning curve I am simply confident
that between baby and I, my close family
network (for which I am very lucky)
and especially my Mum we will do just
fine. |
